Big vs. Little Savings
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A Question of Strategy
My husband says it's not worth spending lots of time paying attention to little things that save a dollar here or there. Instead, he prefers to look out for the big bargains such as travel specials and such.
I'm horrible at that. I'm much better at the little things. Needless to say, he thinks I'm wasting my time and I think he's missing good opportunities. Although I must admit it's disheartening when I've managed to save $20 over 2 weeks and in one swoop he dances in and says, "I got a ticket to Wherever for peanuts!" (A place we really wanted to go, BTW.)
Can anyone comment on this balance?
My father is a marriage counselor and this sort of thing comes up all the time in differing scenarios, not just money and savings. The financial one is much simpler to deal with than many of the other more common ones. Being a man myself I love to "hunt" for big game, I mean um... savings. See, he's trying to bring home "the big one" but he needs to realize that that is an expenditure rather than a savings. It may be steeply discounted expenditure but it still is one.
So, in reality you are saving and he is bargain hunting. Both are vitally necessary. If you didn't save it he couldn't spend it on the "tickets to Wherever" Instead, the answer would have to be, "that's great honey but we really can't even afford those." This is a much worse position to be in. Your savings allows him the freedom to go for the kill on these good deals. He needs to realize that he can't do that without your work, you are a team and need to start formally acknowledging that since you are doing it anyhow.
Different Methods, Same Goal
You obviously have a gift for finding bargains ala penny pinching. I think that's great! You're doing so much for your family, and I'm sorry that your husband doesn't see that. Your method of small-bargain saving is very effective, requiring much insight, attention to detail, and self-control. Those are very important qualities, and while your husband may not feel they are worth your time, I can assure you that they are. $20 here and there can add up very quickly.
Chances are, without your cost-cutting methods, your husband wouldn't be able to afford any vacations, no matter how wonderful a bargain. It takes an effort from every member of the household to acquire successful saving. Your methods may differ from his, but they are no less important. In fact, I am willing to bet that your methods are more effective in the long run.
Each Contribution Helps
I say, "Keep it up!" Between you and your husband, the both of you are doing great! You're both contributing to the household as long as you can get your husband to recognize that a little bit of savings adds up to a whole lot when done repeatedly. In our case, I save on groceries while my husband saves on auto expenses. Between the two of us, we do all right and we are each contributing what we are good at to get the household ahead financially. Who cares how much it is as long as it's something! Good luck - convincing the husband, that is.
Seeing the Value
Your husband is missing good opportunities by not saving on the "little things". Those little things add up and you need to show him. Keep track of what you save over a month, either by keeping a log or put the money you have saved in a jar. At the end of the month, multiply by 12 and you will see how much you can save in a year. Then show your husband the results.
My husband didn't think it was worth the time to cut coupons and send in rebates until I showed him that we saved an average of $25-30 per month. Now you may not think that's a lot, but it pays for our cell phone! That's just from groceries. If I included other store specials and coupons, when I added up everything I saved, it almost "paid" for the insurance on one of our cars for a year! Ask your husband how he would like "free" car insurance! My husband has become a true rebater and can even find better deals than I can now!
I guess it must be about perspective, because I read your note and thought to myself "how perfect!" I think it's wonderful that both you and your husband have an interest in saving money even though you choose to exercise it in different ways. Rather than trying to determine which of you is "right", I say join forces! Imagine how much money will be saved if you concentrate on saving $20 on your groceries every two weeks (in addition to the other "little things") and your husband concentrates on the "big things" like vacations, etc.
To you, I say - keep up the good work! $20 every two weeks means that you save $520 over a year. If you put that money in a separate savings account for "play money" then I'll bet at the end of a year your husband will be able to work his particular brand of magic to get you somewhere great for $520. It will feel almost like a free vacation! And you will have the money from doing what you're already doing anyway.
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